HONESTY MEME

[cactusy]

1) Post your characters, one per comment
2) Go around with your characters and have them ask other characters questions-- anything goes!
3) Forced honesty time! Lying is impossible because of reasons
4) ICly discuss the confessions and revelations

Comments

[in_extremis]

There's a person that I'm supposed to be, and one who other people want me to be, and yet another that I know I am, and there's not a lot of crossover. Trust me, the lying is better, we're having more fun.

[cactusy]

Yeah, you know, I've known people like that. They looked exhausted all the time.

[in_extremis]

That's what concealer is for. Do you just wake up like that? Christ, you're more scary than I thought.

[cactusy]

Okay, here's another question for you; why do I freak you out? Most people don't get jumpy around me until they see at least hostility level eight. You've seen minor annoyance at best.

[in_extremis]

Is that not the reaction you were hoping for?

[cactusy]

Scout's honor, I have seriously never tried to make you nervous.

[in_extremis]

I can accept fault there then, but I'm not going to feel bad about it. You didn't give me any reason not to respect you enough to take you seriously. You're in control, you're deliberate, and you're not the first person to threaten my balls, though that usually comes with a little more intimacy.

[cactusy]

I am in control and deliberate. But seriously, dude, if you're going to roam the internet trying to push people's buttons, you have to be prepared for people to push back. I'm not upset or asking you to feel bad or whatever, but you really need some thicker skin.

[in_extremis]

The point is for you to push back. How long it takes you to react, what your defence is, if you're going to adapt or crack under the pressure. You already had me on the back foot, you asked for a drink twice, now that's the only thing I can think about, and you cracked faster than I thought you would.

[cactusy]

For god's sake.

It wasn't me cracking, because it wasn't a serious threat. It was banter.

[in_extremis]

I can't agree with you there. 'Keep talking and I'll punch you' is a dead end, you want me to volley that then my option is to punch back. Now, if that's what you're into, I'm not going to hold it against you, we can wrestle if you want, but one of those is flirting and the other one is a commitment.

[cactusy]

It wasn't "Keep talking and I'll punch you", it was "Come say that to my face if you're so brave". And you weren't. Too bad.

[in_extremis]

Listen, that's a commitment, I'm not seeing the material difference there, we might agree more than I thought. I show up at your door in that situation, we're not sitting down and having a tea.

[cactusy]

Okay, you keep saying "commitment"; the hell kind of commitment are you even talking about?

[in_extremis]

The difference that you're not seeing, between the banter and--Let's graph this out, let's make a working model, you tell me what I said that annoyed you so much, and we'll run it back and I'll say it to your face, and you can show me how that doesn't keep escalating. It already is, by the way, we're on an upward trajectory that you have to get control of again, now you're working against the first law of motion.

[cactusy]

Is there a version of this graph that involves you actually believing me when I say I wasn't pissed off and throwing around serious threats?

[in_extremis]

If that is the part you're hung up on, fine, you let me know when you want me to take you seriously.

[cactusy]

I dunno, how about when we're having a serious conversation? You're the one who came in hot with the non-stop joke-flirting; you're the one who set that non-serious tone.

[in_extremis]

Has this just been your really drawn out way of telling me you were into it? You could have led with that. We could have been naked fifteen minutes ago.

[cactusy]

Yeah, see, there you go again.

I did say check in again after a month.

[in_extremis]

Did you? I haven't been keeping track. Is this the check in?

[cactusy]

Depends. Can you do no-strings-attached, and will you cry actual tears on me if I hurt your feelings again?

[in_extremis]

That depends on how much we enjoy ourselves. We can aim for mediocre, if that'll make you feel better, but in my experience, theory can only take you so far, and a practical application is revelatory.

[cactusy]

Aiming for casual does not mean aiming for mediocre.

I'm not looking for revelations. If you are, that'd become a problem eventually.

[in_extremis]

I think you should strive to have at least one a day. How is that a problem?